How To Smoke Out a Player - Confessions of Another Player

For the record not all men are players, but the idea that not all men are players has been passed on from one generation of women to another there is no convincing them otherwise. Women have all sorts of myths and theories on how to spot and smoke out a player however the truth is; as the women get smart, the players get smarter.

There are generally two kinds of players, the player and the true player (I hope you get it). They are basically the same; the only difference is that players get caught true players don’t. For the sake of this articles I will stick to the true players because once you smoke these out, the ordinary player will be a piece of cake.

The true player might not necessarily be “tall, dark and handsome” but he is smart. Whether you want to believe it or not; he reads you like an open book. His tactics are so flexible and formless; it’s hard to stereotype him. He is no James Bond neither is he Shakespeare but he is calculating. His most powerful tools are timing, playing with your fantasies and of course DECEPTION.

A lot of women like to stereotype players as smooth talkers, the true player will intentionally stutter to remove this perception. He will also occasionally tell a clearly obvious lie (that will not get him into so much deep trouble) just to create the impression that he is not a good liar. Leaving you with the impression that you can tell when he is lying.

He doesn’t have one pick up line or one strategy he uses on all his women. His presentation of himself is custom designed to suit you – his target.

The manner in which he presents himself will differ on whether you are a rich girl, a struggling career woman, a dreamer, the needy type, the boss, a religious conservative, a religious liberal, a people pleaser or simply a goody-two-shoe.  After he makes up his mind on which of these you are or any other I might have left out, he will know exactly what impression of himself he should give you.

It is easy to think that because of all the issues, feelings, thoughts and desires that you hide and keep so safely locked to yourself it’s hard for a stranger to simply come along and figure you out. Well, you are probably right. But we as human beings have the same basic desires and even fantasies. And the player understands that women in particular have specific basic desires that define them, desires such as wanting to be loved – and loving only them, providing for them, their weakness for soft words and so much more.

True players never purse women in the same circles. It’s because of these very principles that he will never touch your friends, if he ever does, then this friend of yours will clearly understand that her affair with him is strictly for the darkness and shall never ever be brought to light.

Because true players are such masters of the art of deceit, they understand that small bits of honesty can surprisingly make a lie much more believable. Chances are, you might always know where he is (that’s the honesty but), but what exactly he is doing, you can’t really tell. He can make the most unholy of relationships seem so platonic and innocent, yet still managing to do one or two things to intentionally make you jelouse. Why? Because he understands that pleasure can only be truly appreciated if it is mixed with pain.

For the true player, one stereotyped notion is also existent with him. He understands that business is business, he never allows himself to get too attached. Even though this notion has been stereotyped it is actually a cardinal rule. However every true player (and the ordinary player too) has a lady that he considers (even though he might never publically admit it) the “main babe.” She is the one he intends to marry (if he ever does), she is the one he would rather be seen at events with, she is the one he would choose as the mother to his kids – she is the “main babe.”

I realize that nothing I have written here will actually help you smoke out the true player; but that’s the whole point – he never gets caught.