One man opens up about the sensitive issue of why men cry and why they pretend not to

Sometimes being a man is hard business. The devil creeps on you without you even noticing, your world and everything in it starts to fall apart. You now have all sorts of issues; from the financial to the emotional issues. If you are a woman, this is the part where you usually breakdown and cry. However for most men crying is
not exactly something they can comfortably do when they have issues.
Contrary to what most women think; men are not all the same. So when it comes to dealing with issues – they all deal with them differently.
The cliché is that a man with issues would find himself the nearest bar, pour himself a cold hard drink, light a cigarette or something to calm down. Get together with his friends, pour some more cold hard drinks, have a man to man talk with his boys and issues are dealt with
In the absence of friends, alcohol and cigarettes, the other cliché would be punching a wall or having sex or whatever. Even though this is the truth, it’s only the half truth, it’s only the official story and it’s simply for the record. Off the record; men seem to have discovered other ways to deal with issues. Ways much more subtle and somewhat unexpected. Some watch porn, some workout and some just cry.
As embarrassing as it might be the rumour is true, men do cry – at times over silly things like relationships and money. It used to be a general rule, that as a man, unless somebody in your immediate family dies; a man should never be seen crying. But now things seem to be different. Personally speaking I have never seen a man cry over relationships or money. But more and people I know (especially women) continue to testify that they have seen men cry over relationships and money.
Men are not exactly comfortable with breaking down to cry in front of other men. From what we gather (as odd as it might seen) they seem to be more comfortable crying to women. Some men like to think that women do like sensitive men and the best way to express sensitivity is to shed a tear or two. It’s hard to tell whether they think such a scenario makes for a perfect bonding moment, or they are just trying to seek pity and if pity is shown they feel loved or they are simply normal human beings trying to let it out – like I said; it’s hard to tell.

For some men, crying is not necessarily a big deal. I guy I usually talk to but never about stuff like this revealed to me, “I once cried in front of my girlfriend because I was (emotional) hurt and she consoled me.” When I put it to him whether he didn’t think that a grown man crying over relationship issues is a bit odd. He shot back, “crying is just like laughter, it’s not a feeling you can easily control.”
May be he is right, perhaps crying is like laughter (may be). As a man, I personally think that this is kind of embarrassing to admit, but the accusations (or testimonies) can’t be ignored anymore. Some men do cry (for the record I don’t). And I suspect the number could be a lot bigger than most of us would suspect. But why they do it would be the most important part of this article but it also the hardest to figure out considering that am not a crying guy and crying is not something a lot of guys like to admit.